Have you ever been told someone likes you? Admires you? Someone that you may not have noticed before? Better, still, has anyone you hadn’t previously noticed said nice things about you directly? Chances are, if he or she did, you looked at them in a different light. You may have even begun to think about them in a more positive way. After some time, you may have felt attraction toward them.
We’re continuing our series on interpersonal attraction today, talking about a third factor: reciprocity. Reciprocity is a term used to describe the phenomenon where we return feelings of admiration (Curtis & Miller, 1986). Not just in romantic love, but in friendships, too.
It makes sense, doesn’t it? We are often drawn to people who like us, who will treat us well, compliment us, and think highly of us, right? Who wouldn’t want to be in the presence of someone who genuinely thinks we’re awesome? Well, not everyone (self-esteem is an important variable), but that’s for another day.
Do you find this to be the case, too?